when your child is being bullied? I was lucky (or is it the other way round) to witness that for the first time recently. When we were back in Ipoh to celebrate the Chinese New Year last week, Ashley had the chance to meet up with many children. One morning during breakfast at the hotel where we stayed in, Ashley saw a girl about her age playing with her older brother. So, my munchkin who is not shy when it comes to children, went over and talked to her. This girl was so friendly and nice to Ashley. Zoey took Ashley’s hand, brought her to the fish pond to look at the fishes, guided her up onto the stage and etc. It was so nice to see the two of them playing together. After she left, Ashley kept asking about Zoey. I didn’t have my camera with me so I couldn’t capture those lovely moments.
Later Ashley met some children who are slightly older than her. Of course, she was so happy to see them. However, I noticed that these children refused to play with her. They practically ignored her and whenever Ashley went near, they moved away. When Ashley took some of the toys, she was told that she cannot take them or she was holding it the wrong way. They even took the toys away from her. Then later, one of them smacked her head when Ashley wanted to get close and see what they were doing. My munchkin was surprised but she didn’t cry. I guess she doesn’t understand what was happening. It broke my heart to see my child being treated like this. I didn’t say anything to that child or to Ashley about it. I know this is a small matter and it is part of growing up. Just that it is the first time I encounter this and as a mother, I feel really sad for my child. If you were in my shoes, what would you do?
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Hey.. Barb,
take a look at my post. If you cannot remember the password.. email me ya. 
We had the same experience at a wedding.. when chloe was younger..
jan – thanks. i read your post just now…still remember the password..hehheh. feel a lot better now. i’ll be keeping an eye (from a distance) whenever she plays with others now.
You can’t fault the kids really, but you can fault the parents! I would just avoid them in the future because really, there’s nothing much you can do. I personally don’t feel that I should discipline other people’s kids. So best to protect other own children from destructive ones.
P/S: Btw, I’m sad that I’m missing the gathering at your house today. I’m still recovering from a could & cold so don’t think it’s fair if I came and spread my germs to everyone. Hope everyone has fun!
Don’t blame it on the small ones, their parents should be around to keep an eye on them. There is nothing we can do when it comes to other people’s kids
Poor Ashley! But there is something that you can do for her…… sayang her even more lo
we have seen Ian being ignored by other kids, and if those kids hit my kids…. u see what will happen la.. hub will give mean eyes to the boy and see what happens..hehe..so bad hor, then we will explain to Ian about no beating, etc..if those kids wanna ignore my kids then let them be, but no beating or biting..
kena before also…what to do. They’re not our kids..so we gotto watch our for ours and bring them away from the bullies.
Sigh…I also had that experience. She’ll have to learn it the hard way unfortunately. Sometimes kids..can be cruel. I must say, JR now also doesn’t like to play with younger children and will ignore them. But .. problem is, I don’t know how to teach him not to ignore…since he really doesn’t like to play with them!
Plus, he does it to his lil bro..and his lil bro does take it into his own stride..and will play by himself lor.
But if my 2 flers beat some boy/girl, I’ll WALLOP THEM, then n there!!!!!!!!Been there..done that!
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Oh dear. Sorry to hear that. I agree with what everyone else says. Watch your kid from afar. You definitely can’t blame the kids nor discipline them – because that’s their parents’ jobs. So, just keep an eye on your child(ren). I was pissed when a boy roughed Irfan up, but I realized that if his parents never gave a damn about his attitude, he’ll never change. The best way was to avoid the fler. And we left the place. Takkan nak carik pasal with a kid? Hahahah! That would’ve been way too funny!
hey everyone,
thanks for the great advice. you all are wonderful
Yes, agreed… heart breaking seeing others don’t like our own kid/s…as long as our kid can accept it…to me tat’s fine unless they really kanna bully ‘kaw kaw’ then diff story…
I think i will do the same, just keep it to myself unless my kid asked abt it, then only think of an answer…no headache now!
thanks Barb, for giving me an insight. I pity those with bully kids.. wait one day, the kids will bully them back and they’ll know. Next time, I’ll say it aloud.. DON’T PLAY WITH THOSE WHO DON’T WANT TO PLAY WITH YOU ! THOSE ARE NAUGHTY AND AWFUL CHILDREN AND GOD DON’T LOVE THEM !
can’t tackle the parents ? tackle those nasty kids !