disappointed :(

Ashley has been practicing some dance movement at home lately and she told me that it is for her Sports Day.  She would also sing a bit of  The Ole Ole Song while dancing.    I was looking forward to see her doing the dance on her Sports Day which was held last Saturday.  Unfortunately that never happened.  What happened was after all the children sang  “Negaraku” and “Rejoice” while lining up on the field, I saw one of the teachers ushering a few children into the hall.  One of them was Ashley.  I was very surprised by the teacher’s action.  What followed next was the dance routine and the rest of the children on the field performed the dance.  I thought perhaps Ashley and her schoolmates who were in the hall would eventually come out to join the rest of them but sadly they did not.

Later, I managed to see her teacher and I asked her why Ashley was not in the dance.   She told me that Ashley doesn’t know how to follow the dance movement *rolls eyes*  I told her  that Ashley has been showing us her dance at home.   She even showed her kung kung and her aunts.  Her teacher kept quiet.  Needless to say I am angry.  What is wrong with a few kids not following the dance routine?  Can’t they just let them be on the field and join the rest of their schoolmates?  For God’s sake, this is NOT the opening ceremony of the Olympics!  It is  the sports day of a kindergarten.  I am disappointed. Very.

Oh well, it’s over and nothing much can be done.  I just want to rant about it.  Thanks for listening (or reading).

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The children singing “Rejoice”

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Ashley receiving a consolation prize for the running event 🙂

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32 Responses to disappointed :(

  1. Lina says:

    I felt that the teachers should be more tactful in handling this. They should get all kids involve to have fun n not leaving ANYONE out. Kids this age is very sensitive, they will ask, why am i not involve? Am i not good enough? etc Anyway, hope the consolation prize Ashley received was able to camouflage mommy’s n daughter’s disappointment eh 🙂

  2. sasha says:

    even if she cannot follow, how can they leave her out? she is still part of the class eh? So they just want perfect dancing? U shuld voice out to the principle about this.

  3. rachel says:

    I m boycotting this kindi. How come segregate? the teacher very smart to bring ashley to a different place while the dance went on. if she was in US, u can sue them right n left, up n down..

    THis is not teaching fairness.

  4. Diyana says:

    yes i also believe u should highlight this to the headmaster. the teacher is being unnecessarily perfectionist, wanting her dance troupe to be perfect but at the same time breaking a little girl’s heart.
    And the latter hold such a big implication, a young child could remember something like this in many more years to come as ‘being not good enough’.
    The teacher’s action must be addressed because this is not the way children should be educated. Their self-esteem must be boost at all time so that they can be nurtured into a confident, intelligent adults later…
    I hope Ashley would forget about the whole thing..Poor Chumsy!! You are so precious and great dancer regardless of what the teacher did or told u!

    Sorry I cannot help but be freaking EMO about the whole thing!

  5. Eva says:

    Yeah, I experience this before and I did spoke to the teachers. Well, the answer that she gave me is totally not an answer !!

  6. Cynthia says:

    The teacher is not tactful enough… since already pick them, why didn’t let them perform la.. ok, not to rub it in since you also ranting only rite.. muahaha… SMILE ya mummy!

  7. Mama BoK says:

    Some teachers are really too much..!! i suggest you say something.. because you’ve gotta let them know.. that it might affect Ashley’s self esteem in the future.. if they keep doing this to her.

  8. Merryn says:

    dat teacher is too much! i remembered handling a kindie concert, eventhough the 4 years old were a havoc trying to perform “The 5 little ducks” they still carry on with the show and got the loudest applause at the end.
    dat teacher has no brain on wat kids are lah! where can we expect perfection? for me, for kids performances, a little error here n there will be better! looks more natural and sweet! poor ashley, i hope this has done not much damage to her self-esteem!
    chill barb! i’m angry at that teacher too, but like u said, it’s over and nothing much can be done. i hope someone will talk to that teacher n tell her what she did is not too right! 🙁

  9. 2ma says:

    this is terrible!!! i would be more than just disappointed, but angry as well! i will complain to the headmistress and may even consider changing the kindie! anyway, i hope ashley was not disappointed that she didn’t get to perform…

  10. Paik Ling says:

    Ohhhh dear…….I can truly understand how you feel. Is Ashley ok? She must had been rather disappointed too. I would have given the teacher a VERY BIG piece of my mind! Obviously, she doesn’t know the word “inclusion”.

  11. mott says:

    that is so lame….

    the parents would be so proud just to see their kids there. Plus, having all the right moves won’t make us laugh…… and kids at that age, are perfect at making us laugh with their moves.

    Wonder if Ash is aware of this..

  12. Jojo Yee says:

    You should highlight this to the headmaster and tell the teacher off or tell her you’re very disappointed at her.

    Who would bother whether they’reare following the dance or not (except the teacher herself)? They’re kids, not adults. As long as they’re having fun & happy, thats all matters.

  13. Big Pumpkin says:

    Aiya!! So serious like that!!! I totally agree with you. At our old school, children all went onto stage for concert and if one or two didn’t co-operate, so be it….and of course, Tee was one of those who had to pull the Santa hat over her entire head covering her face and do something different, and of course, ‘spoil’ their little routine. But they just let the kids be kids. They are KIDS after all!

  14. Annie Q says:

    remember last year i blog about my sons school graduation ceremony? My boys in the dance, even though two of them cannot follow the movement and Fearles just stood there, and my boys don’t even know how to sing, they are on the stage also.

    You should make a complains, like you said this is not Olympics. Don’t feel sad again ya. 🙂 Hope the teacher will give u a good explain.

  15. Adrine says:

    What an awful thing to do. Shows that the teacher cares more about herself (her own image) than the kids.

    I think you should voice it out so it doesn’t happen again.

  16. Elaine says:

    so sad, each child should be given a chance no matter they can follow routine or not. Teacher should not only seek for perfection ( as in the routine) , it’s important not to let the child esteem down. Voice out your dissatisfaction to the school!

  17. lovelymummy says:

    looks so serious about the dance. It’s just a kindergarten dance performance, teacher should let the children go up the stage even if they don’t know the dance movement, somemore Ashley knows how to dance. Quite funny, you should ask the teacher and get the real answer.

  18. Krystal says:

    Agree that the teacher is just too much. Ashley is just a kid, cannot possibly expect perfect dance from her. Well, if I’m you, I’ll be upset too.

  19. mummy gwen says:

    If I were you, I’ll be disappointed too. I agree..it’s over and nothing can be done. But hopefully no next time. The teacher is so not professional in handling this. Shame on her.

  20. familyfirst says:

    They are just kids. When kids are not really able to follow the dance routine – dont you think that is what is most memorable for us parents and other parents too .. watching them perform their very own cute poses???? Maybe this teacher has never been a parent herself.

  21. Mommy To Chumsy says:

    Thanks for all your comments. I will talk to the teacher again and voice my disappointment to her. I really don’t want a repeat of this incident, especially at the year-end concert.

  22. etceteramommy says:

    That was truly insensitive of the teacher. What a bad decision she made. I don’t know what I will say to her if that happens to me.. nothing polite maybe. 🙁

  23. Jojo Yee says:

    Talking to both teacher & headmaster? It’s not only for Ash’s sake, but also for the sake of other kids cause her actions may/will bring down a child’s esteem. Being a teacher herself wonder where’s her common sense. Sigh !

  24. Blur Mama says:

    sorry that this happened. Teacher is seriously too much. I remember my kiddie concert was havoc! Kids don’t follow routine, kids crying, kids don’t want to perform…but still, the show went on. Hope this won’t happen at year end concert.

  25. so sorry to hear that. And the teacher is too much, perhaps can complain to the headmaster?!

  26. that’s a big problem with Malaysian education system. Students must follow rules, to the dot and creativity is not encouraged. So what if a child dances differently ? She’s creative in her own way but the darn teacher had to isolate her. How is Ashley taking it ? She must be sooo disappointed but luckily she still received a prize for the running event 🙂

  27. Ann says:

    Oh…poor Ashley….hoep she didn’t take it too badly.

    Yeah….I think if the kids are already picked out, should let them continue….for Ashley to know all the dance moves, she must have practised and been part of the practise team earlier….

  28. Irene says:

    hope Ash is ok yah 🙁 chey, kids mar, gotta have fun kan, why the teacher so sampat wan

  29. jacss says:

    yr dissapointment was definitely understandable, i mean being the parents!! yeah u shd pursue to TEACH the teacher a lesson!!
    on my boys drama class performance recently, sean was only given a 2-words dialogue…he was sad, thus i was fuming mad too that i ended up sent a ‘meaningful’ sms to the teacher as well as d principal. then d teacher made an explaination in the opening speech & the principal even talked to me personally…i’m happy then, haha

  30. wen says:

    all children can dance provided they have enuff practices. shdnt leave out ashley like that. i wld be angry too..

  31. Adeline says:

    I totally agree that you should bring up the matter to the school board.
    What that teacher did is utterly wrong. Her actions are telling the kids that they are “not good enough”, which is totally totally wrong.
    If that is the attitude of the teacher, God help the children under her care!
    As a matured adult and a teacher, one should be encouraging the children to reach for the stars instead of pushing them down.

  32. Oh dear, how could the teacher have done that? They are only in preschool, must they get every single step correct in order to perform? This lowers the child’s self confidence and esteem. Hope yr gal is ok.

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