I read something quite interesting yesterday. It is about the popular Time Out method of child disciplining. I am sure many of us have tried this method when unacceptable behaviour occurs. Misbehave children are told to sit at a corner or go to their room to calm down and think about what they did. According to what I read, the Time Out is actually meant to give parents time to calm down and re-organize our feelings rather than as a punishment for our kids. This is because the children would not learn anything from this. To them, they would just be thinking “when mummy is going to let me out”. Interesting eh?
When I bring Ashley to the washrooms at the mall or restaurants, I usually choose the squat toilets because I find them to be more hygienic. There is no need for her to sit on the toilet seat eventhough I do wipe/clean or disinfect it…heheheheehe. We were at the mall on Sunday and when I took Ashley to the washroom, she decided to ask me some questions.
Ashley : “Mommy, men and boys squat when they pee?”
*uh-oh….I know where this is heading*
Me : “No..they don’t. They stand up and pee“.
Ashley : “Oh, boys and men will stand up and pee because they have PEN*S?
It was so loud that I bet everyone in the washroom could hear. I told her softly that she ought to tone down her volume. Alas…I think she didn’t hear me because she said…
Ashley : “Girls and woman squat because they have V*GINA?”
When we came out of the toilet cubicle, everyone was looking at us and some were smiling 😀 At times like this, I wish she would ask me questions about toys, what are the best acne solutions or fashion instead of the anatomy of the human body.
how she comes up to me and bargain for a few more minutes to play or watch tv before bedtime.
how she pretends to be stuck between 2 chairs and asked me to help her up.
the way she sings her goofy songs and wiggles her derriere.
how she puts on the weirdest outfit and play dress-up.
A Chinese Princess riding a bike
for a week and half
I caught Ashley watching a show on tv over the weekend. It was on Disney Channel. This was how our conversation went.
Me : “What show are you watching, Ashley?”
Ash : “Good Luck Charlie“
Me : “Oh, do you like this show?” (I was surprised because this is a sitcom and not a cartoon)
Ash : “Yes…because Charlie is soooo cute.”
Me : “Do you understand this show, Ashley?” (I was curious to know if she’ll understand what the show is about)
Ash : “It’s in English, mom“
I was blog-hopping and came across Jim’s Pancake blog. He is a cool dad making cool pancakes for his kids. Here are some of his creations…
Awesome huh? So, I decided to brighten up the lil’ missy’s day by making some fun and fancy pancakes like Jim yesterday. I don’t have any vanilla essense to create coloured pancakes so I decided to use some sprinkles. These are my creations……
As you can see, I have failed miserably 🙁 It is really not as easy as it seems. I need to get better cooking tools in order to make some fancy schmancy pancakes. Thank God Ashley could recognize the shapes of the pancakes I made and she was pretty happy to see them. She even gave me a hug and said “Thank You Mommy“….hehehehehee. Check out Jim’s Pancakes and take a look at his beautiful creations when you have the time. They are so cool!
Ashley did not like the pacifier when she was a baby because she loves her thumb. From newborn until about 2 years old, she would suck her thumb often, especially when she wanted to calm or comfort herself. Also, every time when she sleeps, she would suck her thumb and play with my hair. She only wants her mommy’s hair. A very strange habit huh? Her thumb-sucking activity was not vigorous but it caused calluses to develop on her thumb. As she grew older, her thumb-sucking became less. She only does that when she goes to bed. We did not discourage her from doing it or pressure her to stop. Now at the age of 5 years old, she has finally stopped sucking her thumb 🙂 She just stop doing it on her own. I am glad to say that the calluses have disappeared from her thumb now. Sometimes I do miss seeing her suck her thumb though 🙂
Ashley at 11 months old
Ashley has been telling me that she doesn’t want to go to school. It is getting more and more often, especially before bed or when we are in the car and about to drop her off. I asked her why and she said her teacher (Teacher Joey) scolds her. There are 2 teachers in every class and Ashley’s teachers are Mrs. D who teaches English and BM, and Teacher Joey who teaches Mandarin. She always tell me that she doesn’t like Teacher Joey because she scolds her. I asked her why and she said she did not pay attention 😀
Last night, she couldn’t find her Chinese workbook and was pretty scared. Poor girl. I told her not to worry and I would go up to her class the next morning to check with the teacher. So this morning, I went up with her and apparently her teacher has taken all their Chinese workbooks as she wanted to check them. So whilst I was there, I asked how Ashley was doing and I told Teacher Joey that she has been telling me that she does not want to go to school. Her teacher told me that she’s doing well in school but she loves to talk and disturb her classmates sometimes. Ahhhhhh…..I know my daughter loves to talk and she does that at home all the time. Ashley doesn’t like it when the teacher reprimands her 🙂 Being the only child at home, I can understand that she gets very excited when she sees her friends. Hence, she loves to talk to them. I explained that to Teacher Joey. Guess I’ll just have to keep reminding Ashley to pay attention, listens to the teachers and don’t disturb her friends. Hopefully she would love going to school again *sigh*
I want to stay in the hotel so I don’t have to go to school (that’s what she has been telling me too)
Ashley has a favourite phrase which says like over 20 times a day, every day. Whenever she is crossed with someone or doesn’t get her way, she would say this phrase……
I DON’T WANT TO FRIEND YOU
She’ll come home from school and tell me that she does not want to friend her teacher because she got scolded and she doesn’t want to friend her friends because they don’t want to friend her. Then sometimes she doesn’t want to friend her daddy because he goes out with friends, etc. I’ve told her many many times that it is not nice to say this but she still does it 🙁
means one thing – A very crabby and cranky toddler 🙁 It is a torture to see Ashley grimacing in pain every time she drinks or eat *sigh* I wish that it was me who has the ulcers.
The bloody ulcer on her upper lip. There is another smaller one on her inner left cheek. She told me there is another one on the right but I couldn’t see it 🙁
I don’t understand why she is so heaty when she has been drinking lots of water every day, eating fruits daily and I boil herbal drinks for her twice a week. Ashley is still feverish with temperature around 37.6 – 38.2 deg Celsius. We have already seen the paed 3 x this week because she is also coughing 🙁 I just hope that darn ulcer will go away asap.
I have been applying the “watermelon” powder (a chinese medicated powder for ulcers) but it didn’t help. Yesterday, I brought her to the paed again and was given the above Oral Aid. She screams her head off each time I apply these gel/powder for her. Very heartbreaking but Ashley didn’t refuse each time eventhough she knows she’ll be in lots of pain. She just wants me to hug her tightly while she cries her heart out after that 🙁